Of course, we should all surround our self with people who get it. Especially in today’s world, now more so than ever. However, what does it mean to surround yourself with people who get it? Is there a Merriam-Webster definition for this?
Unfortunately, the answer is not quite..
For me, when I think about “people who get it,” I think about genuine good people that show authentic care and interest. So, for the purposes of this post, let’s use the following Merriam-Webster definitions for genuine; 1) actually having the reputed or apparent qualities or character; 2) actually produced by or proceeding from the alleged source or author; 3) sincerely and honestly felt or experienced; and
4) ACTUAL, TRUE.
These are definitions that I absolutely love because they resonate with my heart’s core of quality and “truth.” Relative synonyms for genuine are authentic, bona fide, certifiable, certified, dinkum [Australian & New Zealand], echt, honest, pukka (also pucka), real, right, sure-enough and true.
The bold words are repeatedly mentioned in my prior post “ Truth, Facts, Actualities.” Why?
They depict my lifetime truth and my genuine, innate self character and life being. I believe that this is the same case for most of you who are reading this post – people who get it.
What’s more, I do not believe in being bogus, counterfeit, fake or false which are antonyms of genuine. Nor do I want to surround myself with people who live, breathe and denote these features.
I prefer to do without any of that. Dear Diary, genuine authentic people “get it.” I do not wish to engage any alternative which is not my truth.
Authentic Like You
A related definition of authentic is true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character. Again, to me it all starts with the heart’s core – the center of quality people. Where integrity, honesty and truth are innate and native features. Their living appearance is not made up or phony.
On the other hand, it can be difficult to discern if someone is being real or fake. I describe an example in my, what I call “Truth,” post where a co-worker told me a bold-faced story in my face.
I thought so highly of this individual and we had a great working relationship. I would have never thought that he was, essentially, bogus and counterfeit.
I am still a bit shaken and feel some kind of way about this.. not really, but kind of. In other words, I am over it, but I am still surprised by it.
How to Tell if Someone is Real or Fake
Let’s look at how to tell if someone is genuine from an evidence-based perspective. According to research in the “The Kind of Authenticity Customers Will Pay More For” by O’Connor, K. Lehman, D. and Carroll, G. (HBR, 2019, June 27) journal, authenticity that conveys adhering to one’s core beliefs might persuade consumers to pay more for ‘said’ products but not necessarily rate them any higher.
To me, this is fine because I do not feel that the ratings part is a factor as it relates to the idea of good people in this specific post.
Forbes 12 Habits of Genuine People: https://www.forbes.com/video/5202030973001
Furthermore, research in the same journal shows that authenticity that conveys fitting within a category might lead to higher social evaluations like star ratings but not an increase in consumers’ willingness to pay more.
Means, the consumer’s willingness to buy more no longer exists without the presence of one’s core beliefs.
For the purpose of this article and how it relates to the HBR journal, we have one customer type; good authentic people. And yes, most of us desire social acceptance, friendship likes and Instagram cheers. However, it is apparent that these desires, wants and needs must embed our heart’s core. An effective correlation to one’s core beliefs from the consumer’s perspective as evidenced in the HBR journal.
Thus, we can shift the paradigm from the willingness of consumers to pay more to attracting good people that authentically get it and that we want to be surrounded by. In addition to, them wanting to be surrounded by us.
“Reciprocity as a concept of authentic good people..”
Conclusion
Even though a direct definition of how to “Surround Yourself with People Who Get It” does not exist, it is my trust that the journey begins with people who’s core beliefs are genuine and centered in authenticity.
Truth..
#lifetimetruth
